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THE THIRTEEN FEMALE COMMANDMENTS

7/5/2016

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It was a humid evening last June when I experienced an act of true heroism. 
I was attending a country concert with a couple of close friends when tragedy struck. While making my way back from the unsightly port-o-potty bathrooms that I had to force myself to use of (yet I maneuver  fraternity house bathrooms with the esteem of a Ritz Carlton guest), I’d somehow managed to get my sundress wedged into the top of my hot pink, lace thong. Thrown into the chaos of any outdoor concert, I was completely unaware of my horrendous wardrobe malfunction. About fifteen minutes later a manicured hand clapped down on my shoulder from behind; “Honey, your dress is tucked into your underpants,” a woman with a cowboy hat hissed into my ear. Faster than a sale of Kylie Jenner lip kits, my dress was plucked and a red-in-the-face Katy was on her way.
​This one single act of kindness from one female to another, commonly referred to as the unspoken, highly confidential “girl code,” positively saved my life (and my ass) that day. 


In a world where the patriarchy is far from obsolete in many respects, it is crucial for our existence as hot-blooded females to stick together. From one uterus-bearing human to another, there is a solid list of commandments that we must abide by, for the sake of girl-kind. 
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THE GIRL CODE COMMANDMENTS 
  1. Thou shalt not post photos of oneself where you look good, and your friend looks like she got hit by a truck. Sometimes getting ‘the crop’ isn’t always a slap in the face. 
  2. Thou shall not only whiten your own teeth, but your girl friends’ as well. (Like, c’mon)
  3. Thou shalt not complain when another female asks for about a million solo shots for Instagram. After all, the perfect candid isn’t always achieved on the first ‘click’. 
  4. Thou shalt not ruthlessly compare oneself! I’m not even talking about the typical magazine model comparison; that girl ahead of you in line at Starbucks who is seemingly perfect and probably sweats glitter? She has her own issues and is probably damn good at hiding them.
  5. Thou shalt not slut-shame fellow females. Thought only men could adequately slut-shame? Think again. Thou shall do whatever one wants with ones own body without ridicule from others. If you want to do it, do it. If you don’t, then don’t. It’s that simple. 
  6. Thou shall be KIND, not judgmental.
  7. Thou shall comply with the ever-so-common “I’m going to walk in front of you and you're going to tell me if I’m bleeding through my pants” dilemma.
  8. Thou shall always carry extra tampons, you never know who mother nature will take by surprise.
  9. Thou shall be brutally honest when asked if the ‘hot guy across the bar’ is actually hot or if its just a very forgiving angle.
  10. Thou shall tell a friend if they accidentally use the wrong “their,” “there,” or “they’re” in their Insta caption. After all, you’d probably like them to do the same for you.
  11. Thou shall feel utmost joy for fellow females’ success. Strive to feel proud of your friends, not bitter that the source of success isn’t you. Remember: empowered women empower women.
  12. Thou shall respect the: “I have a secret and you can’t tell anyone” caveat. (within reason, of course.)
  13. Thou shall always like your friends’ selfies. We all know those take helllllla guts to post.

In the fine words of Madelaine Albright, “there is a special place in Hell for women who do not help other women.” 
20 Comments
allie
7/5/2016 06:31:42 pm

100% agree!! love this Katy! your blog posts always brighten my day :)

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Simone
7/5/2016 06:33:52 pm

Hot stuff Katy 🔥🔥

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Alissa Wells
7/5/2016 10:31:12 pm

obsessed with your blog!!! Another killer post as per usual <3

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sara
7/6/2016 04:32:57 am

your writing isn't that good, you sound like a beginner who's trying too hard to be witty..hopefully you'll get better with time..but for now heres a small suggestion: try not to use so many similes and keep it more simple. its like you're trying to cram in everything you think of and the result is just disappointing. this is constructive criticism btw, so don't take it any other way

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Natalie
7/6/2016 10:15:30 am

I think her writing is fantastic.

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sara
7/6/2016 04:34:25 am

i do, however, love the picture and theme..youve always been good at the visuals

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Rachel
7/6/2016 06:36:18 am

I can't stand that quote. So essentially regardless of whether or not a woman is a good or horrible human we must always support her? No. People earn the respect they get. No one should get a pass simply because of their gender.

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C.E.
7/6/2016 11:03:16 am

I do not think the quote is implying that you should support a fellow lady who just murdered someone, or did anything awful in the sense, but to help a fellow lady out if it is needed. Like how, in Katy's story, the kind woman at the concert let Katy know her dress was taking a ride in her underpants.
The quote is just simply saying to help out a fellow girl in need. Lend a tampon, or pad, or spare your shoulder to a crying girl in need. Don't hide the gun, or support something a fellow girl did that is not worthy of support, just be kind and give help where it is needed.

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Ilia Mura link
7/6/2016 10:21:43 am

Your blog is brilliant Katy! I just love your content - you are great x

Ilia from www.iliascupoftea.com

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Cynthia Little
7/6/2016 10:56:24 am

(DISCLAIMER: I am not hating on anyone, or anything of that manner. Just had some thoughts I wanted to ramble on about. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion.)
Yo, Katy!
I was chugging my way through the comment section, because I enjoy reading the feedback to posts, and I saw someone comment that you were not a good writer. I strongly disagree.
Everyone is going to have an opinion on a writers creativity, and that is fine, but after all, it is just a silly little opinion. People claimed some of the greatest writers in history to be " bad writers ".
Sylvia Plath had many poems rejected just because the publishers disliked the title. A whole poem, a piece of art work formed into words, rejected because of a silly little title. Ann Frank, someone who gave the world a feel of what it was like to live during such a dark time, her diary was rejected fifteen times. Both to become widely known for the very writing that got so many rejections. Who are we to tell someone how to write their own works of art though?
A large amount of courage is to be mustard up to post ones thoughts, that they put much effort into, out in the open on the internet, and you, Katy, talk about the things that should be talked about, and you give young readers/viewers eye opening information.
There is nothing wrong with your writing. Every writer has their own style, and if someone doesn't enjoy the writing, then they do not have to read it. So, use as many similes as you want, and write the way you feel is best for you to write.
Much love,
C.E.

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Tay
7/8/2016 01:26:25 pm

Right on

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Michaela link
7/6/2016 08:58:21 pm

UUUUUUGGGGGHHHH I can't get enough of you, your blog, or your videos! Katy, you are an inspiration to many! Keep up the beautiful writing no matter what anyone says!

24kaylablog.wordpress.com

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LK
7/7/2016 08:22:14 am

Katy, love your blog! You should add a RSS feed thingy so that we can be notified right away when you write a new post. :)

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Shania link
7/7/2016 09:16:45 pm

I absolutely love this! I thought some of these rules were things that friends should just do for each other without hesitation, but as I was reading each rule, I found that I would have to ask myself if I actually do that for my friends. Now I'm making a promise to myself to make sure I follow these rules!

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Kalina link
7/8/2016 01:39:55 pm

I love this post, Katy! I truly believe that girls should help each other out. Looking forward to reading more!

xo,
Kalina
simplysemisweet.blogspot.com

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Lindsay link
7/8/2016 01:42:58 pm

YESS KATY! these are rule every woman should follow! love your writing, xx

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zena link
7/8/2016 02:31:13 pm

you are true inspirational

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Sarah
7/9/2016 04:03:09 pm

I've just found your blog and I'm distraught at the fact that it's relatively new and you have only written a few blog posts 😩 the language you use is amazing and not usually found in a blog about young, current issues. You should be a journalist, please keep writing!

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Cortnie
7/11/2016 04:03:18 pm

I am just mesmerized by the articles that you post. I for one would never have the confidence to be so vulnerable, so it is nice to FINALLY read real posts from someone who does. I enjoy all of your posts, but this one I enjoyed a little more in particular for two reasons; one of them being how you used a witty tone by still managed to remain firm on the points, and two: you wrote about little things that I personally feel all friends/gal pals/ friendly acquaintances should do, but don't.

It was a nice reminder of what a fellow female should be doing without complaint, as well as making me more aware for what I am lacking of doing for them. xx

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Makaila
7/12/2016 08:13:10 pm

Love this and everything you have been posting lately Katy! You're so inspiring and it makes my day when I see you have posted anything from a snapchat story to a blog post. Thanks for sharing with everyone :)

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